Kate Kei

How To Deal With Nervous Habits That Show A Lack Of Confidence – Part 1

In stressful situations we often feel the lack of confidence. Very often, it manifests through nervous habits that betray our feelings to others and can be quite irritating.

What are nervous habits and why do they appear?In stressful situations we often feel the lack of confidence

The examples of nervous habits are multiple: fidgeting, tapping the foot, chewing on pens or pencils, biting the fingernails, avoiding eye contact, touching the hair, rushed speech and so on.

A nervous habit can be defined as a repeated negative behavior the reasons for which are often related to our survival, because this behavior can be our way to lessen the pressure, to feel more comfortable and a little better.
So, most of these habits (with some exceptions like smoking, for example) are not dangerous or harmful. Still, they betray the lack of confidence which as we have previously seen is bad for our success, and the others often find them pretty annoying.

Scientists have proven that habits often provoke the release of dopamine, a chemical substance that plays a major role in our brain’s reward and motivation system. Most types of reward increase the level of dopamine in the brain.

In addition, habits form neuronal connections in our brain so that things that are part of our regular behavior can be done automatically, which allows us to concentrate on something else or to avoid thinking.

What does it take to break a habit?

A habit is a behavior that is repeated continuously for a long period of time. Logically, in order to break it, you must adopt another behavior that will replace the first one and continuously practice it, until it becomes a new habit.

What does is take to break a habit?

However, a few problems arise here. Your nervous habit, whatever it is, is comforting to you. When this comfort is removed, you suffer and you craved consciously and unconsciously. You are very tempted to go back to the “good old ways”. And we don’t like to suffer. Thus, breaking a habit is never easy. And the more we suffer when a habit is removed, the harder it is to break this habit.

A lot of different scientific studies have been done about it, and they show that you may need from 21 up to 90 days to get rid of a habit. It depends on a lot of things, but your desire to do so and your discipline play a major part in the process.


The most important condition for breaking a habit is your desire to do so.

how to get rid of a nervous habit

You must want it badly enough to take serious action and to stick to it for a long period of time. That’s a real commitment here. It’s your commitment to yourself. It’s not easy: as far as the habit was giving you a feeling or an illusion of comfort, you will suffer because you will be needing this comfort again and denying it to your own self. And you’ll have to do it as long as it takes to finally get rid of it and stop feeling uncomfortable and needy.


Moreover, make sure you know exactly why you must get rid of a habit. Always keep in mind and repeat to yourself that you are doing it for your own sake and happiness, in order to get something better instead. It will help you to control and stimulate yourself.

Self confidence means happiness


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