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How to deal with nervous habits that show a Lack of Confidence – Part 3

In the previous post we have talked about slouching, biting your fingernails and avoiding eye contact.

Now, we will talk about some other nervous habits.

4. Giggling

Giggling can be embarrassing in some situations and nervous laughter betrays anxiety. In order to stop it, you have to face your anxiety.

 

Dealing with nervous giggling

How can you do that?

You can deliberately focus on something serious that does not make you laugh. You can also try and retain that giggling even if it requires pinching yourself or digging your fingernails into your palm.

A more detailed approach requires some thinking. Find out what exactly sets off your giggling. Carefully identify this people, places, situations.
And then examine the situations that don’t make you laugh and answer the question: what is the difference? What is so anxiety provoking and why? Take an example from the past where you caught yourself giggling nervously and carefully observe it in your mind. What exactly did you feel then and what would it take to make you feel differently in that situation?

5. Tapping your foot or constantly crossing and straightening your legs.

This habit is very annoying to others. It shows irritation, impatience and also lack of self-confidence. stop nervous fidgeting

Just as with every other nervous habit, you can try and consciously control it. Just check each foot from time to time. One way of doing it is by placing your hands over your legs when you are sitting.

If that’s not working, you can sit at the very bottom of the chair, so that you have to lean on your legs in order to maintain the sitting position. Even though you won’t be able to do it for a long time, it is very effective.

Another advice is to remain standing whenever it is possible.

6. Biting your lower lip

No matter how sexy this gesture can be, it can betray insecurity and damage your lip when done excessively.

 

How to stop nervously biting your lip

A good way of dealing with it is to use a flavored moisturizing lip balm or lip stick. Apply it generously so that if you bit your lip, the taste will remind you to stop it.

7. Rushed speech

w to deal with rushed speechA lot of people have experienced this nervous habit at least once in their life. It either makes you look guilty and unsure of what you are saying, or it makes you sound like a bad sales person. Anyway, people have difficulty understanding you, the enunciation is lost and so is the flow of the conversation. In some cases, rushed speech doesn’t leave enough time for the speaker to organize his/her thoughts and ideas. It disadvantages the speaker even more: the others have a difficulty understanding the point and the speaker’s impression is screwed.

How to help that?

The most effective answer here is practice. Practice your speech or whatever you have to say. Record yourself on your phone’s voice recorder and listen.
You can write it all down and mark the pauses, and then read it all aloud several times going deliberately slower than usual and respecting every pause you marked.

Concentrate on clearly enunciating every word.

Practice taking a few deep breaths before answering any question someone asks you. If it won’t slow your speech, it will at least give you some time to organize your ideas.

It can also be a good idea to learn to match the talking speed of your interlocutor.

 

To be continued…

 

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